While back I’ve written a post about minimalism and how I want to declutter our home 😉 The Minimalism Challenge (Game). I did this “game or challenge” twice and I decluttered almost 1000 items from our home, small and big. To some, this may seem like too much and to others, it’s a very small number but to us, it wasn’t enough, lol.
So I thought that I will do it again. Last time I decluttered about 50 books and this time I want to try and declutter more. I love books and I love to hoard them, but some of the books are just props in our home, I will never read them again so it’s time for them to find a new home and so our other items that will be leaving 😀
I know for a fact that while I love the stuff in our home and they do make me happy they still overcrowd me in my every day and I feel trapped by our stuff. I don’t like that feeling and I know I can change this feeling.
So… Everyday from yesterday I will take an item, 2, 3 and so on, and let them go ❤ and I will let you know how it goes.
Now to other updates…
As part of my de-stressing, I’ve started doing meditations twice a day, every day… Well, this was only my second day of doing it, hehe but I do intend on keeping this habit. I feel much better every time I meditate, I think that by the act of taking a moment to myself, breathe and just listen to the silence really makes me think of what I truly want and try to find some answers and ideas… You know, like when you are in the shower and suddenly a wonderful idea comes to your mind that is how these meditation are to me (so far).
Now about the most important thing, being creative 😀
Yesterday I did some blackouts on a writer magazine and I loved that. This small act just let my mind run through the pages I’ve printed and found random words that by the end of it just made me smile and happy, how amazing is that. I love the part that starts with the word writers and ends with the words what if. (click on the image to enlarge it if you want)
“Writers create their story often fail, the trick quirky ideas, brainstorming what if.”
This weird meshed-up line is so inspiring to me and while I mediated today it lit up my thoughts and the images that ran through my mind while I was in deep meditation.
About my own writing…
I also wrote a bit after I got home from my mom’s doctor appointment and it felt almost addictive to just sit there and write… Wow, how I missed this feeling.
Overall it was a creative day which I am very happy about and I declutter two things today, yey 😀 so I am doing good with the challenge 😉
After lots of thinking, planning and lots of journaling, I came to the conclusion that I don’t like where my life is heading. I basically stopped creating in any form and rarely even writing. I stopped writing/editing, reading, drawing, playing music… and I focused all my energy on helping my family, my friends and basically stopped everything else. I am telling you the complete truth so you’ll know where I am coming from and understand where I want to be. And maybe even go through this journey with me.
I miss our connection and I want to bring it back so we will always have this community and the outlet to seek help and try to overcome life’s obstacles together.
So here it comes… Are you ready?
I am starting a huge series here at Coffee n’ Notes, that will focus on a few major things in my life that I want to change and the main goal is to be able to create again:
Create more – Writing, blogging, drawing, doodling, or anything else I want to create.
Meditate every day twice a day, and to slowly be able to de-stress and breathe better.
Consum less tv, and social media.
Declutter more, our home and lives. Living with less clutter and chaos has become one of my main goals this year, after writing.
Eat better, and taking care of my mind and body.
I’ve been sick for almost 2 months and due to this illness I became vegan again and you know what? I feel so much better. I know it’s just been two weeks but I eat better food and I feel much better than before.
I spoke to a specialist who said that due to my none stop stressful living, I get sick a lot and I can do even more harm to my body and to my mind, so I must change and that is what I working on right now.
This will be hard for me but I need this change in my life, I can’t give myself to others as much as I do, I am burning up all my energies and at the end of the day, I’m left with nothing. I need to trust this process and this journey to lead me where I need to be so that I will be able to be the better version of myself and by doing so I will be able to help my family even more.
I want to do the small things every single day that will slowly build these habits I want to build.
So… Every day from today 14.4.19 until 6.6.19 I will post about my progress and how I find my creativity again ❤
I have tons to do with my mom this month and on May but as I said before I need to find my way in all this chaos. I will try to keep it short and to the point in my next posts.
I hope this series will not be spam in your reader and if so I am sorry in advance, but this is something I have to do for myself and share with the world these moments… good and bad and how I truly going through things in my life.
I hope you don’t mind coming along with me in this weird journey but even though this will be hard for me (really hard, I can tell you now) hopefully, it will lead me to where I need to be and create the books I was meant to create ❤
Arriving at one goal is the starting point to another.
– John Dewey
It’s been a while, sorry for that. January was complete madness and February is a bit slower but still busy. Missed you all so much and this little corner of ours 💕
It’s been almost two months, but I am slowly getting organized an trying to catch up on all my to do’s. The good news is that I was able to have a few days here and there to write and edit (these revisions are killing me, hehe). Anyways… Happy to be back ❤
This post will be a bit longer than usual, so go grab a yummy hot drink, mine is caramel coffee and let’s talk ☕
Because January was such a crazy month, February feels like the start of 2019, I know it sounds a bit out there but for me, it’s the truth. February feels like a fresh start and only now I am able to think clearly about my needs, my goals and my dreams and only in this month I can see the road ahead of me and not get overwhelmed. Because all of these reasons I see February as the new start of 2019, I also see it as a great opportunity to hit that reset button and start fresh with new intentions and see things through the eye of an eagle.
“Hitting the reset button” is hard but for me, it was a necessary step, in order to climb out of this overwhelming haze that I was in. I listened to a few podcasts and everything got better, hehe… No, but it did help me realize that I was overwhelmed and too stressed.
I took a chill day, to just relax, listen to some music and breathe. I’ve inserted meditation to my weekly routines, but I was too stressed to really enjoy and get any benefits from that. So I took out a pen and a paper and wrote above a question.
“How are you feeling at this moment?” I took a deep breath and started mapping out everything that I felt… The good, the bad, everything (big or small). I didn’t want solutions, just to take out what was overwhelming me and put it on a piece of paper. After filling the entire page I saw all the chaos that was in me and the weird thing is that I was starting to feel better, my head started to think clearer.
I realized that no matter how much I wanted to I couldn’t show up for my goals and my own dreams because I was too busy and stretched too thin from helping everyone else and then things started to change. I started to go back to my old self, being more optimistic and even going back to my old “magic vibe” such as tarot and just tapping to the universe’s magic, showing up for small goals, tiny steps that someday will lead to something bigger 😀
I slowly showed up for my yoga practice a few times a week, at home. Started with just a few easy minutes and slowly getting into it with soft stretches, until I felt stronger and ready to push myself harder.
I also slowly started to reorganize and define my workplace, my home and what I truly envisioned it would look like after I achieve what I want and after I showed up for my goals. I got a plant from my mom that my husband named Nott The Plant (Nott from Critical Role) and I hope it will grow and thrive, I finally got the two decks of cards I wanted: The Universe Has You Back and the Animal Spirits ❤
With this new mindset of just showing up for my small goals helped me feel calmer and more ready to tackle the big goal that is my book revisions. Now, I am trying to show up for my weekly goals with the notion that I can always just take a deep breathe and push that reset button and start again.
I found that just taking the few moments and allowing myself to have that reset mindset helps me a lot with bring back my creativity, my magic and the entire flow of how I move, act and think of myself and with others.
For me what helped is taking some “me” moments or even a day to just be myself, without a deadline, tasks or anything else I need to do, just be. I know it sounds weird but for me, it helped a lot. Taking almost a full day by myself to think, relax and feel the creativity flow around me. Meditate, brainstorm ideas and dump all that is cluttered my mind to a piece of paper and lately I listen to a lot of music on Spotify and create playlists for any mood I feel, all to make me feel more connected to myself (and others) and to my dream and thrive.
With all these small but crucial changes that this small step of resetting our intentions brings to us a calmer mind, happiness, and the focus we want to be able to thrive and tackle the task we want and need to achieve. Know that you can start over (even each day), brings such a calm vibe and joy.
What are your steps and habits to reset your mind, body, and soul when life is too overwhelming?
Hello everyone, I hope you are all having a good weekend ❤
This month is an extremely busy and stressful month. My mom is not feeling that good and she has water in her lungs so on Monday she will undergo a small procedure to drain the water and see what the water is made of (infection, cancer, and other health issues). On Sunday we have to go to her heart doctor and do CT as preparations, but this entire month is full of doctors and checkups.
I can’t believe how fast December has arrived and it’s already the end of the year… Wow. But there are still 4 weeks to go so lots to do and goals to accomplish. From January I will start posting mostly once a week due to a tight schedule of editing, but I will try to post more 🙂
Anyways, before we go into my December Goals, let’s see how I did in November.
How I did with my November goals?
Win Nanowrimo (write 50K). ❌ (Nope, didn’t win but I wrote 34K so that’s great).
Paint behind the stove. ✔
Blog 2-3 times a week. ✔
Duolingo daily. ❌ Didn’t do it even once in November, lol.
Yoga 3 times a week. ❌ I did do Yoga but I think I ended up doing only once a week.
Declutter the closet room. ✔ Not finished but I did a lot and I ended up decluttering about 490 Items (yay me).
Read 2 books. ✔ I’ve Read 5 books ❤
My December Goals
Blog 2 times a week.
Continue writing (my goal is to write 15K).
Continue decluttering (declutter the other closet and bookshelves).
Put up the Christmas tree 🎄 Still didn’t do this 😦
Drink 1.5L of water daily.
Make Jan 2019 bullet journal.
Plan posts for Dec and Jan. ✔
Yoga twice a week.
Read 6 books.
My Instagram followers chose my TBR for this month from my Goodreads TBR pile
So here’s what they have chosen for me:
That is all for my ambitious goals, but I want to push myself harder so I can accomplish more even when life is hectic.
Hey all, I hope you are all having a good day and if you are participating in NaNoWriMo then here are some quick and easy steps you can do to ensure you will have a better start to your NaNoWriMo experience 😀
If you want to see me last year’s Last Minute Nanowrimo Prep, check it out as I am sure you will find a tip or two help you relax and feel prepared.
This year I am looking at things in a different way and I hope this will help you too 🙂
Last minute organization
If you haven’t done you outline like I’ve suggested in my Nanowrimo prep, you can use this last day to do a fast outline and have a quick know of what you gonna write about. Research only the key things you’ll need in order to keep on writing. you can always go back and do more research.
Put everything you need to do this month in your calendar/planner/bullet journal, that way you will have a better understanding when you can write.
Organize your space where are mostly going to write and if it’s your bed, try to make it nice and tidy every day so that you will have an amazing feeling sitting there and write.
Don’t start at midnight
There are a lot of Nanowrimo addicts that will start as soon as the clock hits 12, don’t! Go to sleep and when you wake up you are fresh and ready to start your writing.
Twitter is your friend here (I know… it sounds weird), during Nanowrimo, you will find a lot of people on twitter doing words sprints and this is your time to follow a few of these sprints and a few nice people to connect with. As I wrote in my 4 Nanowrimo Tips last year, using the sprints will help you write faster and more words.
As Twitter, google drive is your best friend, lol. If you put your work on google drive you are automatically synced to everywhere and so you can write from everywhere, even from your phone.
The “Nanowrimo” app
There is a Nanowrimo companion you can find in the app store. You can see in the widgets your daily word count and your overall word count, this keeps you motivated and always thinking about your novel 😀
Be zen about it, hehe
Try journaling while before the madness starts to clear your mind of all the things that are bothering you throughout your day, I will highly recommend to do it even while you are doing Nanowrimo (it helps a lot).
Meditate to calm your inner self. I know how it sounds, lol, but calming yourself down will keep you focused on what you want and even let you figure things out when you’re in a bit of a rut, so keep doing even a 2 minutes meditation every night before sleep, will help you a lot during all this craziness 😀
find some yummy healthy and not so healthy, hehe food to stock up when the time will come and lots of coffee/tea, that way you will always have some good crunchy food to each while fighting to write a scene or just in a mini-blackout.
Hey everyone, I hope you are all having a great weekend ❤
I am feeling tons better and it finally rained here and a lot. It was amazing, our first real rain storm and it felt great. I love the smell of rain and how everything looks so beautiful and crisp after the rain.
We have only 2 and a half month before 2019 and I truly want to do a few more things before the end of the year. I saw this 19 before 2019 circling around the internet and I thought I would give it a try. Now I am sure that most of you know just how much I love a good list (hehe) and so of course, I’ve made myself a list of 19 things I want to finish, do, or continue doing before 2019.
Here are my 19 things I want to do before 2019
Read 10 books 😀
Finish outlining the series, enough with the dilly-dally.
Declutter the entire kitchen (I can’t wait to do this, maybe even this Tuesday) 😉
Declutter the entire closets room (I am so dreading this one).
Start doing yoga (again – daily).
Write in December.
Let go of any toxic, unsupportive people in my life (started on this already, it feels amazing).
Blog 3 times a week (already on it) 😀
Drink more water (2L) I started a monthly challenge to drink 2L of water everyday 🙂
Consum less and create more (I’ve taken a break from my social media for a bit so I can write and edit more).
Meditate every evening before bed (already started on this).
Sleep more (at least 6-8 hours a day).
Once a week, pick a day to pamper yourself and do some self-care (oh how much I need this) ❤
Pick after myself every day and put things where they belong.
Try coloring again or just doodling, I missed it.
Continue learning a language or two (I took a small break but I already continuing learning) 😉
Be a better friend to other and be kinder to myself ❤
Well, this is my very long and a bit weird list, lol. Hope you all got inspired and maybe even make your own list of things you wish to accomplish before 2019.
What would you like to accomplish before 2019 is here?
Hey everyone, I hope you are all having a great start to October ❤
We are already two weeks deep in October and even though I didn’t accomplish much, I still accomplished a few things that were very important to me, however, there are still a few things I want to finish or start, so I thought why not share my October goals with you 😉 and see how I will finish this month.
October = Fall to me and soon winter will come as well (omg how I want winter to come). You can already feel the air cooling down a bit and the days are getting shorter, which for a lot of people I know is not a great thing but for me it’s amazing. It is a sign that winter is closer than ever and maybe, just maybe this heat will soon be over (fingers crossed). Fall for me is cozy blankets, yummy hot drinks, and lots of reading.
I accomplished a small daily routine that helps me get up early in most of the days and even in the evening, I have a routine that let’s be more organized and productive. How amazing is that?
If you want to know more of my new morning and evening routine, let me know in the comments or through my social media and I will post a morning and evening routine for you all to see and maybe it will help you if you are struggling. (wouldn’t mind any tips as well if you want to share) 😀
But for now, let’s start this post with my monthly goals.
My October Goals are:
Re-organizing my summer to fall/winter closet.
Re-organize kitchen cabinets.
Finish outlining the series.
Continue editing (2 chapters at least).
Prepare for NaNoWriMo (oh yeah, this year I am all in).
Finish all my commitments before Nanowrimo.
Read 8 books (OMG, yes… 8 books, hehe) 😀
Books I’m reading this month
I haven’t read much lately, I was in a huge reading slump due to all the stress and this month I want to do 3 reading marathons to kick start my new reading 🙂
The week (14.10-20.10), I want to marathon read Miss Peregrine’s Peculiar Children Series By Ransom Riggs for the fourth book A Map of Days that just came out (I can’t wait to read it).
Next week (21.10-27.10) I want to marathon read The Boahim Series By Raven Oak. The first book was amazing ❤
For the last week of October (28.10-30.10) and for Halloween, I want to read 2 more books (why am doing this to myself, lol?)
These are my very ambitious goals and huge TBR, but I know if I will push myself I will be able to achieve most of them, and maybe even all 🙂
What are you reading? Any goals you wish to accomplish this month?
NaNoWriMo is less than a month away and October is the month to start writing again or just give yourself a boost of motivation to continue your on-going project. I am (still) in my editing phase so I will continue on with my own writing project in hopes to finally put a serious dent in my edits.
If you don’t know what NaNoWriMo is, then let me explain it to you… Nanowrimo is National Novel Writing Month that comes every year on November. In this nano month, you will try to write 50K in one month 😀 If you’re gasping of shock right now and thinking that it’s way too hard, then let me tell you that it is hard and it is madness, but that’s the entire fun of this. The point is to write and not think of what your novel will look like (that’s editing for).
Here is my checklist, that helps me stay on track with my writing through Nanowrimo and preparing for it
Know what you gonna write about
Use this month to know what you’re going to write about. Try imagining your world, your characters, the theme of the entire plot. At first, it’s okay to write just a name, a place or a sentence of the plot. The more you write whatever comes to your mind the more good ideas will flow out and spark your Imagination and let it run wild.
I said this a lot but it’s true, outlining your novel truly helps, especially after the midpoint of your novel. So… Outline your nano novel as much as you can. My outline is about 40 pages and in many times more than 60 pages long (lol, wow… I need help). So do as much outlining as you can this month until you know all the characters, places, plots, and even some subplots 😉
Don’t be lazy and do the work. Research about places, or people.
Listen to some conversation near you, hehe (I know it sounds weird and intrusive but it helps a lot) then, write down some key notes about what stood out in your eyes.
If your book is more on the sci/fi or Fantasy research about that subject, and try to create as many details as you can because when Nanowrimo arrive you will not have any time to do all this and you will have a much easier time writing down almost 2K a day, every day.
Go now to nano site and connect with other writers. you can find groups in your local area or just add writing buddies to help you be more motivated throughout the month, and do some sprints with them.
Take a break
In the week before nano or even just a couple of days before, take a break and enjoy your freedom, it will be your last chance for some free time for 30 days, hehe 😀
Embrace the madness
Don’t think of how it will turn out, no one has to see it. Enjoy the community and the madness of writing sprints with other writers and race towards your goal of writing 50,000 words a month. Ready to have some fun?
This what I do every year, and it helps me get on track when I feel stuck or just have fun and write with other writers out there, so I hope it will help you too.
After all, as writers we mostly tend to do our craft alone and once in a year it’s so much fun to just embrace the madness of Nano and enjoy the wonderful community ❤ Btw, I’ve made this for NaNoWriMo last year, to put on my phone and on my Instagram and other social media, feel free to download it and use it 😀
I am thrilled to say that I have outlined the major events in Book Two in the series – The Curse of Time. So, if you haven’t read The Curse of Time Book One Bloodstone now’s the time to do so!
During this process, I stumbled upon a plot development idea that shocked me. I’d started writing the bare bones of the ending of book two and then POW it hit me. I can’t divulge what my idea is for fear of spoiling it for you, but I can say that it will take the story on an unexpected pathway into a potential book three.
This Kapow aspect of writing excites, empowers and intrigues me.
During the creative process of writing The Curse of Time Book One Bloodstone, I didn’t plot much at all. I wrote from a reservoir of my imagination. I had to restructure a lot, but this meant that TCOT is a highly imaginative concept.
My reviewers have been saying lots of wonderful things about TCOT.
Here are just a couple of review quote snippets:
‘This is a brilliant book for young adults interested in magic, supernatural, paranormal, fantasy and myth. I found it highly readable and the author’s imagination is phenomenal, as is the fluency of her language and the dazzling way she describes the curious events and characters in her story. I loved the idea of Esme, the girl trapped in the mirror.’
S C Skillman, author
‘The curse of time is a beautifully written book. I really enjoyed M.J. Mallon’s style of writing and the beautiful characters she created. Even though aimed at the YA audience I enjoyed it and found myself totally engrossed.
The story is almost dreamlike, very addictive and quirky. I loved all the references to crystals and the magical element. I was keen to find out the mystery linked to Amelina’s Dad’s disappearance and eventual reappearance. This is such a mixing pot of delights, you have gorgeous poetry scattered throughout, a girl stuck in a mirror and a magically enchanted paint set and this is the tip of the iceberg!’ Lisa, Book Addiction UK.
One of my subsidiary characters became far more important. In fact, she became one of my favourite characters.
Imaginative Developments: Mental Health and Entrapment
I had an idea to write about a girl trapped in a mirror and Esme became that girl. I realized she needed to be more interesting and defined. I struggled with this for some time. Then, during the writing process, I had a Eureka moment – I decided to link the mirror girl Esme’s imprisonment to mental health.
Mental Health is a form of entrapment. A person who is suffering from mental health problems isn’t free. They are unable to live life to the full as fear anxiety, depression and mental health issues hold them back. Esme is that person. She is a prisoner in the mirrors of Amelina’s house and she is also imprisoned by her mental health issues. Esme is a victim of a curse but prior to her imprisonment, she had also been stuck in a vicious circle of self-harm.
Esme became the character I longed for – a character with huge potential for truth, hope, and discussion. I now have so many ways to portray her and…
The reader will be able to see her journey throughout the series.
Will Esme recover from her self-harm?
Will she escape the imprisonment of the curse?
Will I be able to help Esme feel good about herself?
Esme’s character will allow an open and frank discussion on the crucially important topic of mental health/self-harm/depression/anxiety which matters so much to me.
Esme also features in book two, with an emphasis on recovery and hope along with all the original cast of book one.
Imaginative Developments: Crystals
Wow, I just love them. I have a lovely collection at home. So it’s no surprise that there’s a magical crystal cottage in The Curse of Time. But, this haven of beauty, light, and magic isn’t open to everyone. No way! It’s strictly by invitation only. My main protagonist, fifteen-year-old Amelina Scott is allowed to visit but will Ryder creep in? Wait and see… There will be some amazing developments with regard to the cottage in Book Two. Expect twin doors…
Imaginative Developments: Tattoos and Art
Tattoos. This is hysterical. What can you do with tattoos in a fantasy novel? Perhaps you can cover your villain with them. Hey, maybe you can bring those tattoos alive, and link those black tattoos to shadows. Perhaps you can take this further and make them smoking hot! Interesting… Now, how cool is that?
Just imagine what fun I can have with tattoos in future books… Oh my!
(I have a thing about bringing art alive and this is also portrayed in the Creature of The Cottage.)
Imaginative Developments: Clocks and Rollercoasters
There are three wonderful Chronopage clock creations invented by Dr. John C Taylor, OBE http://www.johnctaylor.com/who I had the pleasure of meeting in September 2017.
The magnificent grasshopper lives in King’s Parade in Cambridge, and features in Book One. The midsummer Chronopage showcases a mythological fly and the dragon Chronopage is, of course, a dragon. Look at that pearl on the dragon’s tongue! I can’t wait to write about the mythological fly and the dragon in the next two books in the series.
In the meantime, I have plans for the grasshopper to come alive and get up to a bunch of mischief in Book Two.
Aren’t they stunning?
And … there will be an epic rollercoaster in Book Two and some riddles…
If you like fantasy, adore Dr. Who (like I do,) I hope you will give The Curse of Time a try.
Wow, June had arrived fast and in 3 days I am celebrating my birthday 😀
I have about 10 goals for this month, some of which are from last month. Btw, I am not going to do the June – JuNoWriMo this year (just in case you are wondering, I just don’t have the time, but I will be doing some major writing and editing this month and the next few months.
Write 15,000 – 20K words this month.
Edit 30 pages.
Organize my writing notes.
Scan a few of my mom’s medical papers – I really need to get this started.
Deep clean my kitchen and living room.
Organize my own medical papers.
Build a Patreon Page – Already done, yay me. Don’t forget to visit it 😀 ✔
Schedule at least 2 weeks of posts in advance – Have done 😉
Work more on my social media, especially on Insta and Twitter.
Play more games with my husband on the weekends.
I want to push myself outside my comfort zone and I wrote a few ways I can do it and even started a few.
Read 3 books ❤
These are my goals for June, I really want to achieve them and not postpone them for the next month. I am planning to push myself harder and get things done as much as I can.